How Emotional Intelligence Can Help You Make Better Decisions
We all have different personalities, desires and requirements, and ways of expressing our feelings. It requires tact and intellect to realize this, especially if we want to succeed in life. This is where emotional intelligence plays a crucial role.
Emotional intelligence is the capacity to detect and comprehend your emotions, as well as the impact your emotions have on those around you. It also affects your perspective on others: understanding how they feel allows you to handle relationships more effectively.
Daniel Goleman, an American psychologist, presented five characteristics that define emotional intelligence in his 1995 book "Emotional Intelligence - Why It Can Matter More Than IQ":
Self-Awareness – people who are self-aware understand their emotions and do not allow their feelings to control them. They are truthful, and they are aware of their own flaws.
Self-Regulation – these people are not impulsive, they think carefully before acting, and they have the ability to say no.
Motivation - People with a high level of emotional intelligence are usually motivated. They are highly productive and enjoy a good challenge.
Empathy - The ability to understand and identify with the needs and desires of others Empaths are good at recognizing the feelings of others, even when those feelings are not obvious.
Social Skills - These people would rather help others than focus on themselves. They are excellent communicators who understand how to keep a relationship on track.
The good news is that emotional intelligence can be developed and improved. First and foremost, conduct a self-evaluation. Have the courage to look at yourself honestly and identify your flaws; it will benefit you more than you realize. Another thing you can do is accept accountability for your own actions. You can apologize if you made a mistake and forgive if others apologize.
When things go wrong, keep your emotions under control. Try to stay calm and in control when you're in a stressful situation, and don't get upset over trivial matters. Examine your thinking and interactions with others honestly. Put yourself in their shoes and try to be more open and accepting of their ideas and needs.
So, in order to live the life you truly desire, you must first determine what you truly value, as this is where your emotional energy will be directed. And knowing what you truly value—rather than just what you say you value—is likely the most emotionally intelligent skill you can cultivate.